REGULATION BEFORE FAMILY CREATION
Regulation Over Love:
The Baby-Making Experiment
Understand How Stress Can Shape Your Body, Relationships, and the Family Life You’re Preparing to Build.
Regulation Over Love: The Baby-Making Experiment is a six-week live virtual regulation experience for people preparing for partnership, pregnancy, parenthood, or family life.
You do not need to be married, pregnant, or actively trying to conceive.
Participate individually or with a partner as you learn to recognize stress patterns, build body awareness, and practice regulation before pressure becomes the way you automatically move through relationships and family responsibility.
New to Regulation? Start Here.
Regulation is the practice of noticing what is happening in your body during stress, pressure, connection, and recovery—and learning supportive ways to respond with greater awareness.
Stress may show up through your breathing, posture, muscle tension, sleep, energy, patience, communication, intimacy, or ability to recover after difficult moments.
The goal is not to be calm all the time. It is to become more familiar with your body and your signals so you can respond to pressure with greater intention.
WHY THIS EXPERIENCE EXISTS
Making a Family Requires More Than Making a Baby
Preparing for partnership, pregnancy, parenthood, or family life can bring new responsibilities, changing expectations, and added pressure.
Regulation Over Love: The Baby-Making Experiment creates space to understand how stress may show up in your body, communication, connection, and everyday relationships before greater responsibility is added.
The goal is not to prepare you for a “perfect” relationship or family. It is to help you become more aware of your own patterns, recognize what happens when pressure rises, and practice supportive ways to respond.
Whether you participate individually or with a partner, this experience gives you an educational place to begin building greater body awareness before entering or continuing the next season of family life.
This experience is educational and is not a substitute for medical or mental health care.
WHO THIS EXPERIENCE IS FOR
You Do Not Have to Be “Making a Baby” Right Now
THIS EXPERIENCE MAY FIT YOU IF YOU ARE:
- Preparing for a deeper partnership
- Considering pregnancy in the future
- Preparing for parenthood
- Already parenting and wanting to understand your stress patterns differently
- Building a household or family with another person
- Wanting greater awareness around communication and connection
- Interested in practical regulation tools before taking on greater responsibility
This experience does not tell you when, whether, or how to create a family.
It is designed to help you understand yourself more clearly as you move through love, partnership, parenting, and family responsibility.
HOW THE WORKSHOP WORKS
Six Mondays. Live on Zoom. Built for Real Life.
6 consecutive Mondays
7:30 p.m. Eastern Time
Participate from home and revisit the material around your schedule.
Every Live Session Includes
- 30 minutes of guided regulation education
- Live question-and-answer time
- Up to 100 minutes total, depending on Q&A
- Replay access if you miss the live session
- Pre-recorded supporting material
- Lifetime access to workshop recordings
No previous nervous-system knowledge is required. We begin by helping you recognize what may already be happening in your everyday life.
THE SIX EPISODES
Six weeks designed to move from awareness to practical regulation in everyday life.
Episode 1:
Why Most People Are Running On Stress Without Knowing It
Learn how stress may begin showing up in the body before you fully recognize what is happening, and build awareness around patterns you may already carry.
Episode 2:
How Stress Shows Up In Your Body
Explore how breathing, posture, muscle tension, digestion, fatigue, emotional load, and other body signals may reflect stress.
Episode 3:
Why Pushing Through Makes It Worse
Explore what can happen when body signals are repeatedly overridden and how you can begin responding differently.
Episode 4:
How To Regulate Yourself In Real Time
Practice breath, reset, release, and body-awareness tools you can return to during everyday pressure.
Episode 5:
How Your State Affects Everything Around You
Explore how your regulation may influence communication, intimacy, partnership, leadership, parenting, and family life.
Episode 6:
The Reset Starts With You
Bring the six weeks together by creating a personal regulation reset you can continue practicing in everyday life.
CHOOSE HOW YOU WANT TO BEGIN
Start With the Level of Support That Fits Your Season
You do not have to begin with the deepest level of support.
Choose the option that matches how you want to experience the work.
One-Day Pass
$25
Begin with one live virtual workshop session. Experience the education before deciding whether you want to continue through the full series.
Full Six-Session Pass
$75
Move through all six episodes of Regulation Over Love: The Baby-Making Experiment and build your personal regulation reset across the complete virtual experience.
VIP One-Day Experience
$2,500
For participants who want deeper, in-person support, the VIP pathway brings the regulation education into a full-day small-group experience.
Offered in: Pennsylvania → New Jersey → New York City
AFTER THE SIX WEEKS
The Next Level of Support: VIP Full-Day Intensive
Ten days after the final Monday session, the VIP full-day experience begins.
The experience brings the six workshop episodes together in one in-person day with deeper support, guided education, body awareness, breathwork, movement, reflection, community, and integration.
VIP EXPERIENCE DETAILS
- Location sequence: Pennsylvania → New Jersey → New York City
- Four VIP days per state
- Thursday through Sunday
- Maximum 12 participants per VIP day
The smaller learning environment allows for more focused support while participants continue the regulation work introduced virtually.
MEET THE FOUNDER
Erick Gordon, a.k.a. Chief Soma
Erick Gordon is the founder of Head-to-Toe Healing and the creator of its regulation education work.
His professional journey began with volunteer EMS work in Hoboken before moving into professional emergency medical services. He spent nearly six years in EMS before transitioning into dialysis care and later pursued massage therapy.
That experience across high-pressure medical and body-based environments shaped how he began thinking about stress, body awareness, recovery, and the ways people learn to recognize what their bodies may be communicating.
Erick later built Head-to-Toe Healing around education that helps people notice those patterns earlier and develop practical ways to respond with greater awareness.
He brings more than 10 years of experience across medical and body-based care environments, along with CPR training and his massage therapy background, into the educational foundation of Head-to-Toe Healing.
IS REGULATION OVER LOVE RIGHT FOR YOU?
This experience may be a strong starting point if you want to:
- Understand how stress may show up in your body
- Recognize your patterns earlier
- Notice how pressure affects communication and connection
- Practice regulation tools you can use in everyday life
- Prepare for partnership, pregnancy, parenthood, or family life with greater awareness
- Explore regulation in an educational, non-clinical environment
YOU CAN BEGIN WHERE YOU ARE.
You can participate individually or with a partner, and you do not need to be pregnant or actively trying to conceive.
Come as you are and begin building greater awareness of the patterns you may already carry.
EDUCATIONAL SAFETY NOTE
This Is Education, Not Medical Treatment.
Regulation Over Love: The Baby Making Experiment is an educational experience.
It is not medical advice, diagnosis, treatment, therapy, fertility treatment, fertility counseling, pregnancy care, prenatal medical care, or a replacement for healthcare.
The information and practices are designed to support education, reflection, body awareness, and regulation practice.
For pregnancy concerns, postpartum complications, severe or unexplained symptoms, chest pain, shortness of breath, dizziness, numbness, tingling, swelling, trauma, unexplained pain, or high-risk medical conditions, seek support from an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.
VIP PARTICIPANT BONUS
Continue the Experience Beyond the Workshop
Eligible VIP participants may receive a complimentary VIP-level upgrade toward a future Regulation Over Love Content Retreat registration.
The upgrade creates an opportunity to continue the work introduced during the VIP experience in a deeper retreat environment.
HOW THE UPGRADE WORKS
To receive the upgrade, the participant must complete the VIP experience and separately register for an eligible retreat.
The upgrade may be used within one year of the participant’s VIP workshop date.
Retreat registration, transportation, lodging terms, available dates, and any remaining costs are separate.
The upgrade has no cash value and is subject to availability and final retreat terms.
CONTINUE LEARNING
Want to Understand More About Regulation?
If you would like to explore the ideas behind this work before choosing a workshop pass, continue into Head-to-Toe Healing’s educational resources on nervous-system regulation, stress, body awareness, and recovery.
You do not need to understand all of the science before participating. The first step is learning to recognize what may already be happening in your everyday life.
Regulation Before Responsibility
There is value in learning to recognize your patterns:
Before the relationship gets deeper.
Before the household gets busier.
Before pregnancy.
Before parenting.
Before everyone else needs something from you.
Begin Before Life Requires More of You.
There is value in learning how to recognize what is happening inside you.
Regulation Over Love: The Baby-Making Experiment gives you a place to begin—with education, awareness, and practical regulation you can carry into the next season of your life.
Additional Learning + Research
If you’d like to go deeper into this work, you can explore more of our approach to nervous system regulation and how it’s applied in real-life settings.
Learn more about our core philosophy and methods here: System
Explore how this work is experienced in a retreat setting: Retreat
Understand the mission behind why this matters: Mission
See how these practices support teams and organizations through corporate wellness experiences: Wellness
This practice is informed by research on how the nervous system responds to stress, safety, and body-based awareness. You do not need to study the science to benefit from this work, but these resources can give you deeper insight into how the body regulates, why stress may show up physically, and how gentle awareness may support regulation and recovery.
If you would like to explore further, you can review Cleveland Clinic’s overview of the nervous system, Harvard Health’s education on stress and the body, and introductory material on Polyvagal Theory by Dr. Stephen Porges: Cleveland Clinic’s overview of the nervous system, Harvard Health on stress and the body , and introductory material on Polyvagal Theory by Dr. Stephen Porges .